Everyone knows a "perfect" couple.
You know - the thin beautiful stay at home mom of strait A students that never get in trouble. The stay at home mom who can stay at home because her handsome successful husband makes more money than Bill Gates....and he's attentive and sweet and doesn't complain. They attend church together, have date night and he gives her carte blanche to spend whatever she needs/wants. They volunteer at every school function, support the local animal shelters, serve dinners to the less fortunate at Thanksgiving and adopt a family at the holidays. . .
You could be half of that perfect couple. And if you are...more power to you. I say "CONGRATS" to you if you are.
My husbands sister and her husband are that couple. I have always been in awe of them. They have three boys that are perfect little angels. He is successful, always has been - enough so that even as newlyweds she could stay home and not work at a J-O-B. I always felt a little uncomfortable around them. While they would never say out loud what they thought - I know they had strong opinions about divorce, and (other unmentionables...like drinking and smoking. Not that I smoke - but....well you get the idea).
I found out through the very long grapevine and quite by accident that they are getting a divorce. According to the (source) it is a nasty one at that. ( as I mentioned before we are very very estranged from my husbands family. This has all been very strange). To say I am shocked is an understatement. I am so shocked I can't even think of a word to describe how I feel. I would never in a million years have expected them to be the ones that didn't make it.
I know...I know....you never know what goes on behind closed doors. I know. But it sort of shatters my idea of happy marriages. I can't think of a worse time to be going through this either....the holidays. Three kids. ( teenagers really - but none the less it IS Christmas time...)
How depressing is this? I'm sorry. I just had to get it off my chest.
On a lighter note...it's SNOWING and I LOVE it. And I don't care that the majority of the people around me hate the snow. I love it. Let it snow, let it snow let it snow!
I love the snow and am enjoying it here as well.
ReplyDeleteIt's amazing what we don't see in others' lives. That's part of the reason I blog about the hard stuff. I think people should talk about it more. So everyone feels less alone. So we can strengthen each other. And, yes, so we don't feel so bad by comparison. I am sad for this family and what they are going through. Even when divorce is necessary, it's always sad when a family ends.